25 March, 2010

Hypocritical Relationship Advice

You remember that saying "If you love them, let them go. If they don't come back, it was never meant to be." Ignore it.
Bullshit and lies. All of it. That phrase has two things I can't stand: the word 'if' and a blatant lie that corrupts the soul and destroys the heart.
Should you love them, grab hold with both hands, tie them down and never, EVER let them leave. Love is not for everyone, it is forever and you get so very few chances at it. Love will not wait for you to come back, to rediscover it, to try another day.
Love wants you now, when you are open and willing to love and be loved.
"You have to be cruel to be kind."
No. You don't. Love is not cruel and so you should not be either. Love is hard, that's all. Love wants to hurt you, stretch your limits and drag you to each corner of the Earth. Tell Love the Earth is not flat and Love will accept you. Love wants to make you feel its pain. Love wants you to compare your ache with its removal. Do not be cruel. Be kind and grateful.
Teen Pregnancy - Abortion coz he says so
When he tells you to get rid of 'it' just remember that 'it' is alive and 'it' is growing because your body loves 'it'. What you have inside of you is beautiful and not everyone is so fortunate to experience what you go through. Just because a child may interfere with someone's life plans does NOT mean that life is any less valuable. You should do what you feel is best for you and your baby. Should YOU decide that means termination, that is your choice. A child with no home and no life to look forward to will not appreciate entering this world. It is different if you abort your child for the relationship you had. It won't be the same. You won't love him for it. You will despise his very being. Choose carefully. Choose very, very carefully and remember to keep thinking of yourself, not him.
Getting Married - When you are sixteen
Don't. It's a dumb idea. You will SOOO fail.
That covers it.
If You Like Her (Yes, YOU) - Ask Her Out
She's graduating in a year? Big fucking deal, so she's out of high school first. What, were you racing? Or is it that you think she'll move? How far can a person go for crying out loud. I'll bet she doesn't head for Singapore so you always have IM, email, letters, texts, phone calls, weekend visits and post-it notes. Yes, post it notes. They work wonders. Just a little 'hi' will keep her smiling for a week after she finds it under the sink or in her closet or wherever.
Asking Her Out - But How Do I Make Her Like Me First?
Post-it notes: for EVERYTHING you could ever think of. Talk to her. Let her know you care if she feels 'swirly' and relaxed. Make the warm fuzzy feeling! Tell her things that make her less scared. Give her a reason to wait up until 2am to see if you get back online. Hug her often, even if you're just friends. Don't put your arms around her shuolders for two seconds then just let go. Wrap your ams around her. Stand close and take a deep breath. Always close your eyes,make it just you and her. Breathe out slowly and then you can let go.
Don't compare the love you had to the like you have. It isn't fair on the other person. You gave up on love, you sent it off and now you pay with second best. Keep it.
It is your reminder that you are an idiot. Enjoy.

3 comments:

  1. It's not a thought. Thoughts are used for memory or problem solving. It's a fear; an emotion. I am afraid she will leave to "somewhere I can't follow", as the Wise Sam Gamgee said.

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  2. Be brave, jump at the chance, the opportunity. Fail with every fibre of your being should the world decide you cannot succeed.

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  3. ...I only just noticed that you quoted a LoTR character. I am so very sad for you!

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